Back in 2017, I took a decision to shift base to USA on an H4 visa. This meant that I consciously chose to took a 1 year break from work and not go to office at all. Heading straight into this sudden break from a super-hectic corporate work schedule made that life transition most difficult.
Backdrop of My Travel on an H4 Visa
I travelled to USA on Nov 1, 2017 with an H4 visa. Back then, I was not quite a believer of long distance marriages (well, I still have my reservations there!) and was a flag-bearer of ‘no-matter-what-couples-live-together’ policy. Prior to this, I was working in Singapore, in a well-salaried and full-fledged role of a software developer-cum-analyst, with almost a 12-14 hour work schedule. So, it was not that I moved over to USA, for a better quality of life financially.
I always had a fair option of not travelling to USA on an H4 visa, but I chose to.
And to be very fair to my spouse, he was extremely accommodating and there was no pressure from his end at all. As a couple, we mutually decided to move to USA, instead of moving to Singapore.
Even though technology has never been my area of passion, my decent brains have helped me survive in the IT industry so far. And I was always a workaholic, almost to an extent of being obsessive at times. Deadlines, long working hours, challenges, executions – all of these used to give me an all-time high. My company got me good opportunities in my professional career as well.
But, my heart always lay where the pen was. I loved writing!
I felt so liberated with unleashed writing, especially while travelling, that nothing else could ever take the place of such unconditional love in my life. So yes, I had a plan to take a sabbatical leave and dedicate a year’s time to full-time writing and setup my own website.
What is an H4 Visa?
For people who don’t know, here’s a slight input on the H4 visa. This is an immigration option in USA, which authorises a man/woman to reside in the country, along with his/her spouse or children as direct dependents. Unfortunately, according to this visa, the identity of an individual resides with his/her partner. Your own qualifications and work experiences are not even considered and you are strictly not authorised to work.
The Initial Rosy Days on An H4 Visa
If it is your first trip to the USA, you would love it there. My first interest was to lap it all up, before I missed any experience. The people, their ways, the discipline, the cleanliness, the consciousness, the attitude, the country as a whole – it felt so different from India. I got busy imbibing all the goodness of America, from the moment I set afoot there. In the first month of landing in USA, I had taken a road trip to Las Vegas. Yes, that was the level of adrenaline getting pumped into my veins in the first month itself.
Travelling always set me free and this was the farthest I had travelled away from home. Nothing could stop me then.
My mind raced free, and life outside a corporate office seemed just perfect.
The Reality Check
Soon after a month of all the initial euphoria and travel, that feeling of not getting back to office sinked in. Yes, this is what corporate conditioning does to you! We become so used to the hectic schedules and long working hours that we crave for holidays and getaways. But, that craving for holidays is short-lived. After a refreshing break, we just want to get back to work with all the renewed energy. And in my case, that never happened.
One month had passed. The adrenaline rush had mellowed down by then. Gradually, I could feel the change. I had begun missing that whole process of getting ready for work, having that 5-minute breakfast, rushing to office, completing assignments, racing to keep up with deadlines, socialising and getting back home to plan some piping hot dinner before snuggling into bed. Suddenly, it felt as if I had all the time in the world and absolutely nothing to do!
Needless to say, the next month was one of the gloomiest and most difficult times of my life.
Soon enough, I realised that I just had to put my foot down and take the reins of my life in my hands. Irrational brooding and self-pity was definitely not going to take me anywhere.
I had taken this 1-year break for a reason and it was time to materialise that dream.
My days got jam-packed with internet-surfing while trying to figure out the best possible way to self-host my dream website. And the nights got busier, with the strategy implementation. I had begun working even harder and started building my dream, one step at a time. Everyday, I learnt something new, improvised, failed, and bounced back harder. That’s how WANDER BIRD was born.
Back to base, after completing a full year in USA on an H4 visa
Now, it’s been a year of travel-writing and life seems to have completed a full circle in a span of just 1 year. Today, I feel immensely refreshed, have a greater clarity of thought, practice a better balance between my job and travel writing and have my priorities sorted like never before!
We become so comfortable in our mundane lives, that we often hesitate to take that leap into the unknown. There were people who criticised me, rebuked me and even judged me saying that I was going on a ‘paid leave-cum-vacation’, ‘absconding from work’, ‘finding an excuse to chill’ and would never do anything substantial with my life. According to them, I was apparently wasting my time and had no substantial plans for a year. A senior person from workplace had even wished me luck to ‘burn my husband’s hard-earned money’. Yes, these were the exact words.
Well, I don’t even owe an explanation to such people, about the zillion hardships I faced while taking this 1-year sabbatical leave from my corporate work and even while living this decision of mine.
It was a hard decision to live with, and today, it was even harder to stick to that decision and get back to work, trying to manage a long-distance marriage for a while.
To all those critics — You will never get the credit for pushing me to achieve what I did, in the last year of my professional blogging. I always had my plan sorted in my head and was working silently towards it, unperturbed. But yes, you guys made my resilience stronger. So, thank you!
To my ever-supportive husband and my tribe – With a rock-solid support as yours, anyone can achieve anything. Thanks for everything!
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